Leave the Past Behind

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The School of Life

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BULLETPROOF YOURSELF!

IS YOUR PLAN BULLETPROOFED

Bulletproof Yourself! 

It's funny how we live our lives each day and how we live through experiences and thoughts that are defeating.  

The negatives.  The low feelings of worthlessness and defeat. Almost on a constant basis there is a battle going on inside of us of what we must be and who we must become. A constant battle of who to believe and what to believe.  

You see, our lives have been bruised by our past and carry scars that still need healing. We carry words spoken over us and enforced teachings that were somehow warped and influenced by the character of the parent, teacher and leaders.

And so, we have this framework of reference over the years that seem to dictate to us and have the upper hand over our waking up, walking each day and going to sleep times. 

A hail of negative references that seem to challenge a life that has decided to change and be better. And we lose sometimes.  
For some who are too weak in character or have this idea that, this is my life and my lot. They seem to never make progress. They carry the idea in themselves that a better life is not for them or that only gifted people can improve and become better.

 
~My question to them would be, who told you this?

Who told you that you were not good enough?

 
These questions are important because we live consistent with who we are and who we believe we are.  

So, if your upbringing was always filled with poverty and defeat you tend to believe this about yourself more than anything. 

If your life experience has been rape or physical or verbal abuse you tend to believe the trauma and the experience more than anything else and no matter what class or group, you attend for healing you still battle with this self-image. 

This self-image comprises of what you say to yourself under your breath when you alone or in public. These feelings of worthlessness that you decided on when you first experienced your negativity or trauma in your life. You blamed yourself for what others said and deemed it as true.  You further reinforced it over the years by consistently acting that way and believing those words and situations as true.

You kept feeling worthless when it came to times of improving yourself. Words like, " I'm not good enough. I'm worthless. Nothing good ever comes out of improving your life."  

You have a greater tendency to believing that than anything. You have this statement, "My life is FINE!"  

Fine! Compared to what?

What are you comparing yourself with at that moment?

Are you comparing yourself based on how you feel? 

Because I can tell you after years of working with people that people will not change unless they are prepared to change their believes about themselves. Even that becomes too difficult because your basic response to life since your trauma and since that negative talk from your parent, teacher and religious leader has been to give up. That it is not worth the fight anymore. You have given up on yourself. You have excepted defeat in your life and excepted this as your lot.  

But let me remind you. This is the problem. This is the reason why you are struggling to become. Why you are struggling to except the person you know you should become. The problem is your habit. Your habit or routine of thinking of yourself in a certain way.  

Remember people follow through on WHO they consistently believe they are. So, if you think low and traumatic you will consistently act and say things with that outcome, BUT if you change your outlook and believe that you are better. It's going to take a whole lot of effort to changing how you look at yourself and what you Say to yourself.  

Your beliefs shape you.

You follow through on who you believe you are. So, remember that, when you attend a group or healing session.  Remember that when you attend a workshop or motivational conference. 

 
You need BULLETPROOF. Not a bulletproof vest but yes, so to speak.

You need to Bulletproof yourself against your thoughts. The traumas. You need to change the battle game. You need to realize when those negative darts of the past come your way at night or in the day that you have your armour on. 

 
You might be asking how long should I do this? 

You should do it consistently as a lifestyle.

You need to change your mind on some things. Change your mind until it becomes second nature. This might sound like work but it is necessary for change.  

Remember, your framework of reference came to you when your mind was soft and pliable.   
 It came at a time when you were young and vulnerable and just learning about the world and you automatically continued in it like it was normal.

You started to form habits around those experiences and you repeated under your breath in frustration or when things did not work out for you while growing up. They became habits and routines. Whenever something didn't work out you reinforced the belief by saying to yourself that this is true what they said or that experience. "nothing good will ever come out of my life." and so you have repeated this and repeated this over the years in the classroom, on the playing fields, at home and amongst friends. You have reinforced these beliefs in every situation.  

But! It's time to BULLETPROOF. 

Why? 

Because you need armour against your worst enemy. YOURSELF!

You keep bringing up the past and living in your head. 

It's time to BULLETPROOF. To start designing your life and living in the present. 

How? 

Change your mind.

Rewrite your life's vision.

Attend a vision board seminar.

Change your associations. 

And lastly, you have this assurance that when you met God. He made you BULLETPROOF.

He changed the game and He gave you a game book, the Bible.

Align your negatives and trauma with the word.

Belief more in who He says you are than in any other person. 

BULLETPROOF yourself by believing in Him.     

 Thanks for taking the time to read this.

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Shalom  ©2017 Author: Denzil Pailman

I Don't Feel Like It

I did not feel like it.

Really, that was how I felt getting up this morning.

I don't feel like it this morning

I have these rituals that I have been doing for x amount of years and it still gets to me. I had a great evening and my body didn’t feel all achy, just 100% but my mind has this pattern that I have been trying to break all my life, but for the few minutes of each day I have got to decide.

Kick mind games out the door and decide. This is how it’s going to be and this what I’m doing. I’m going to do my ritual of exercise this morning whether I feel like it or not. I’m going to do that press-ups and cardio’s whether my mind is up to it or not. I’m doing this. 1234 and on.

1234 and on

I was driving through morning traffic and thinking of all the daily motivation one needs to get by. All the synching to be in peak state to go out and get the prize each day.

I couldn’t help but think about the different motorist who were traveling along this route convoy as though some subconscious program gave the order automatically in all of us.

I wondered how many have rituals that steer them towards a positive outcome each day or are they just on automatic. Rituals are daily little positives or negatives that get us towards a state.

I don’t feel like it could be the mantra that they are repeating under their breath. I don’t feel like going to work. I don’t like that guy’s hairstyle in that car. Not that I thought that. I just don’t feel like it.

What if we continue in this state for the next say? Week or two
What would be our outcome?
You guessed it or did you guess right or did you guess wrong?

Whatever, the outcome. It’s going to be an outcome. It’s going to be everything that they feel at that moment of thinking like that but! Wait for it, 100 times worse or good depending on their reaction to that statement.

I don’t feel like it.
Well, life certainly has a way of painting us a picture each day. some days we get up feeling like we are going to take on the world and others, like my morning. 
Do I? Do I really have to do this but then I think of my body, my age and the changes I’m going through and the task I must commit to everyday and of course to where I’m going in life and then I remember.

Not at this moment or that moment. I remember sitting on a plane for almost 9hours between stop overs. I remember the 21hour bus rides into an African country and I remember the speaking engagements and the work I do almost back to back and then I remember. I need to get rid of this midsection that keeps pushing up against my ribs while sitting for long hours on journeys.

I remember how uncomfortable I was and the promise I made to live up to my craft and its expectations of me.
Now, yours would not be so dramatic, but can be less strenuous. 
Is it right to use the word strenuous to describe your work or craft? 
I don’t know but it sounds good while typing, at least in my mind. 

I think, no matter the craft or the job we all have these bodies that are ageing without our consent and if they doing that without our consent then we need to do something with consent.

I consent to doing it anyway whether I feel like it or not.

I don’t feel like it! I consent to doing it and getting the feelings later.

Do it. Yep, just do it.
I don’t feel like it makes me do it.

Be blessed and don’t forget to share. 
Author: Denzil Pailman